tbh i am not the person you want to be texting in an emergency, my notifications are off and i’m on Do Not Disturb. i haven’t had a ringtone since the dark years of ‘06. i’ll text u back in four (business) months like “hope that worked out, the Lord works in mysterious ways xx”
Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.
some people will withhold closure from you just because they know it will cause you pain. sometimes you think “if i just told them how much they hurt me, they would understand and apologize.”
but some people know they hurt you. they know that you’re torn up inside. and they won’t apologize. maybe it’s because they are selfish. maybe it’s because they are evil. maybe it’s because you walked away and they need a way to feel like they still have you.
this is why you don’t wait for someone else to give you closure. you don’t need any person being the gatekeeper to your peace of mind. some people hurt others and do not care to make things right. so you have to make yourself right.
if you don’t reblog this you’re straight
I legally can’t scroll past this post
I’ve Survived Every Bad Day I’ve Ever Had, Motherfucker!!!
Can i get a step by step on how to do this?
So far for me it’s been something like:
1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.
2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.
3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.
4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.
5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”
Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.
I hope any of that made sense.
oh my goodness there are instructions!!
Omg I was doing this without knowing